Trauma

It’s hard to suppress some memories.

Something happened to you − maybe recently, maybe a long time ago.

You may not be consciously aware that it happened, or you may know about some messed-up things, but you discount it.

You’re here now, and that was years ago.

You push it away, thinking, “How long am I going to let this affect me?” But it still affects you.

The past keeps interfering with your present.

Sometimes that experience freezes you in your spot, sometimes memories come up, and you can’t make them stop.

Sometimes you are angry, edgy, and you don’t know why.

Sometimes you feel like you could use some help but push that down because you know you’re better off handling it yourself.

You’ll be fine − you’re always fine. That’s how life is.

Trauma has many causes.

Everybody likes to talk about trauma as if it were a big event – like being in a war or a big car accident, being attacked or severely abused.

Often, such experiences can cause trauma.

But sometimes, trauma results from a long accumulation of things that chipped away at your self-esteem, your calm, and taught you that this is the way people live.

Trauma can have a family connection.

Were you ever surprised that your friend’s family doesn’t do THAT? Did you notice they don’t talk like that to each other? They don’t yell, mock, or make one person responsible for everything that happens.

Maybe you were surprised at what they DID do – they show up at events, expressed being proud of each other, and helped without making a big deal out of it. They encouraged, praised, and seemed to enjoy each other. Weird!

Perhaps your family was different. You think, “My mother was crazy, and I had to handle her anger growing up.”

Perhaps there was never enough money growing up in your case, so life was uncertain and worrying. Alternatively, there were some incidents when you were young, and now, they have a different interpretation for you.

It’s time to face, rather than suppress, those memories.

Trauma doesn’t need to be a big, spectacular event like a war or a car accident, though we all know it can be.

It’s not unusual for the trauma of some type to be an underlying cause for many other issues.

Trying a different lens to look at the past can reveal a lot. Once you see it, you can understand it, come to terms with it, and see its echoes in the life you have now.

It’s time to change the rules for living and start living your best life. Yes, that is a thing. Call for a free consultation; we’ll discuss.